FAB & Effective Decision-Making
Posted by DoozyFAB | Posted in Career, Communication, Dating, FAB, Family, Feel Good, Occasions, Society, Strength | Posted on 14-05-2012
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Everyone has to make decisions whether we like it or not. We will either be proud of our decisions or not-so-proud/maybe even ashamed or embarrassed Sometimes we will have to go through situations where we will not even know what the right decision is, but we make one anyway. Other times we get confused about what is going to be the best decision for us and the people we love.
Maybe you have to make a decision to end a romance, pick between a few awesome schools, cut the blue wire or the red wire, take your money out of certain stocks or invest in something else, and even pulling the plug. Whether we like it or not we will have to make huge, life-changing decisions for ourselves (and sometimes for others) as long as we live.
BRAIN V. HEART
I sometimes make my decisions with my heart instead of my brain. It is not an uncommon thing among human beings I mean we are not all robots…yet. It depends what you prefer. I think having a balance between your mind & heart is the best. 50/50.
Sometimes when I have to be the one making the decision for myself I start to get a little anxious because I think of all the things that can go right or wrong. Other times, I grin and bear it and just make a decision for the sake of making it. It feels good to make a decision. It makes you feel in control of whatever the situation may be. What I want to do is help come up with tools for FAB & Effective Decision-Making.
FACE IT: NO ONE CARES
Please don’t go and think that a major decision is “OMG should I text him??”, “Should I go to the party on Saturday? That bitch is going & I don’t want to run into her”, “Should I shave before prom?” Questions like that are not going to ruin your life is you make the wrong decision. I am talking about major decisions. Financial ones, Romantic ones, Educational ones, Career ones. Those are very important things everyone deals with in their young/adult lives. Unless you are Oprah and want to make awesome decisions for others. Be my guest
My Challenge
I have been applying to graduate schools and have to make a final decision about where I want to go for the program I am passionate about. This is huge. There are so many pros & cons. So many things that can go right or wrong. Meeting new students, paying for tuition, the length and quality of the program. I am using this as an example because the way I will decide is super basic and can apply to any decision you have to make.
How to Make FAB Decisions:
After weeks of contemplating the pros&cons in my mind I realized that I confused the hell out of myself and needed to gather my thoughts in a more productive way.
- Write all of your questions down and make sure you have the accurate answers from both schools.

- Make an excel sheet of all the facts (Yeah, I know NERD STATUS. I was shocked at myself when I did this) But it helped organize and clear my mind like crazy!
- Analyze the stats. I ranked the things about the schools that are most important to me (i.e.: the length of the program)
- Ask yourself, “How will I feel if I do ___.” “Do I imagine myself at _____ school.” Trying to visualize the situation about where you want to end up will help put things in perspective.

- Go with your gut feeling. Although, It is a little confused at times, I always trust my gut feeling. This is when you know you are making the right decision for yourself.

How to make Horrible Decisions:
- Waiting and waiting to see what happens before it’s too late
- Making decisions while in an emotional fit (like screaming: “I hate you!! I don’t want to ever see you again! I wish you were dead!” I meannnnnnn…

- Validating with more than 10 people. I mean ok, consulting and getting advice from experts in the field that’s fine. But asking more than a certain amount of people will confuse the hell out of you so do yourself a favor and leave it to a max of 6 (MAAAAX)

- Not learning from your past mistakes

Have anything to add? I’d love to hear what you do to make FAB Decisions! Comment below or e-mail me at doozyfab@gmail.com



































































